If You Make A Promise To Your Child, Keep It

If you make a promise to your child, keep it. Never promise anything just to make your child happy for the moment. If you do and then do not fulfill it, you will damage the bond you have with your child.

Children have a unique and fascinating memory, but their ability to retain information is strangely “selective”.

For example, they may forget to put on their shoes before going to school, but they never forget a promise to go out and buy ice cream, even if it was a week ago!

How can that be? How can they show such selective ability to remember the things they are most interested in?

To understand it better, we must first establish a simple concept: keeping a promise is more relevant for a child than for an adult.

Children need certainty

Children need to develop in an environment full of certainty, not insecurity. When you make a promise to your children and do not fulfill it, it confuses them and creates false expectations. It also makes them disappointed and frustrated.

Not only do you attack their emotional world by not keeping your promise, but in their eyes you also seem to be a person with low credibility that you can not trust.

What kind of upbringing or education can we give our children if they stop trusting us? It is clearly a situation that no one wants to end up in.

If you keep your promises to your children, you are “shaping” their personal integrity

Albert Bandura is a very famous Canadian social psychologist and is the creator of the theory of “modeling”. The theory is based on the fact that a large part of a child’s learning is about imitating and imitating the behavior performed by a model, for example the child’s parents.

Children lay the foundation for their social abilities and ways of understanding the world around them by imitating others. If they see their parents keep their promises and keep their word, they develop personal integrity. They understand that it is something that is satisfying for everyone and therefore is something that is worth following.

Absence of parents

You love your kids crazy much, but… do you think you show it in a good way? Younger children do not understand that their parents leave them and go to work to be able to earn money and ensure their well-being, provide them with food and guarantee a roof over their heads.

Children can only perceive the absence of their parents. Therefore, the best way to show our children how much we love them is to make them feel important and significant as much as we can.

By giving a promise to your children and keeping it, you show it.

• Promise your kids to sit with them and watch their favorite movie.
• Promise them that after school you will accompany them to the park.
• Assure them that as soon as you get home you will be there for them.
• Promise that if you come home late from work, you should still read a story to them before they go to bed.
• Promise them that tonight you will cook their favorite dish.

All of these examples are ways to spend time with them. It shows them that they are the best and most important to you. That’s what your promise to your child can do.

It shows them how to build good relationships

The happiest and most satisfying relationships are based on trust, sincerity and trust.

By being a model for your children when you make a promise and keep it, you teach them that getting things is as rewarding as the feeling that those who love us are trustworthy people. They are people who do not lie. They are our pillars in everyday life.

In this way, they learn to build stronger friendships and more mature relationships in the future. As you can see, what you are really doing is “training them for life”. Is there anything that can be more satisfying?

If you keep your promises, your children will respect you

As you probably know, it is difficult to respect a person, whether it is a partner, mother or father, who often forgets their promises.

When a parent does not keep his promise, the children become disappointed, upset, and perhaps even angry. After a while, the bond between them begins to erode.

Therefore, there is nothing as important as keeping your promise to your child, no matter how small or large. It gives your child security, security and confidence. In the future, your child will grow up to be a responsible and happy adult.