How To Raise A Child Who Wants To Achieve Success
Children often give up when they can not draw a specific shape or build a figure with blocks. This is normal and will happen many times. But it is our job as parents to motivate them to fight for what they want to achieve. It teaches our children that they should want to succeed.
It is not good to let the children get used to the fact that they can stop with something they have started when they are only halfway done. It is also not recommended that parents pick up the thread and complete what the children have started. The best message you can convey is that perseverance pays off.
Our children’s future depends on this magical lesson that motivates them to never give up. Perseverance, overcoming obstacles and a sense of optimism are concepts that must not be lacking in our children.
Today’s children feel constantly pressured
The world today is very technical. Today’s most difficult challenges are not related to artistic or athletic abilities, but now we all need to cope with all new technology.
It is therefore important to teach children how to control their emotions, especially frustration over something that goes wrong. The goal is to help children develop their emotional intelligence that allows them to cope with disagreements or obstacles in their path.
It is also important for children to see how their parents complete everything they have started. But without dealing with it properly, children can become frustrated when their own outcome is not the same. Letting children abandon projects and at the same time expecting perfection encourages destructive attitudes.
To achieve success, you must be motivating, supportive and show leadership
With that said, it is what we say to the children when they think they have failed that is important. It is a great idea to use a past problem from the child’s life to explain that success is achieved gradually and by showing perseverance.
Another crucial aspect is how children deal with their emotions when they become frustrated with small things. They should learn to express what they feel and we need to listen carefully. Otherwise, their irritation will increase and then we will encourage the children to leave everything in half.
Listening and trying to reason leads to motivation. The children get new ideas and soon renew their efforts.
Our goal is to encourage them to try again and again, until they feel satisfied with themselves. On the other hand, it is also important for them to know when it’s time to quit. They also need to understand that all extremes can be harmful.
Highlight improvements and encourage children to outdo themselves
“Mom, I want to draw but my ideas do not come out.” Your child sees that his or her drawing does not match the idea that existed, and throws away the paper annoyed. Now is the right time for you to explain how to achieve success.
What the child should internalize is the idea that every learning process is progressive. The child will therefore reach his goals by continuing to try.
Each time our children try again , we should encourage them and give them constructive criticism so that they can maintain their positive attitude until they are ready.
The importance of letting children do household chores
In order to transmit the desire to surpass themselves to the children, it is important to let them perform household chores. We will of course guide and help them with difficult tasks. But we should avoid interfering too much so that we do not hinder their own role in the task. When it comes to simple things, it is best to just monitor and let them do the rest.
Children of parents who do all the household chores themselves take no responsibility and do not learn to handle situations in the right way. They will not become sustainable adults and will continue to rely on others to avoid things that are difficult.
Finally , we ourselves must be role models in perseverance. After all, we can not expect our children to keep trying if we adults ourselves are ready to throw in the towel.
