Learn To Speak Out In A Positive Way

Learning to speak out is one of the most difficult things for new parents. Saying no to children when they want something is a big challenge. It is also one of the most important experiences in the learning process.

With this in mind, we will in this article take a look at how to speak out in a positive way.

Trick to say no in a positive way

If you have ever thought about this, about how to tell your children in a positive way, keep reading. There are many different ways to express something. And how we shape the phrases is crucial to the results we get.

You can convey the same thing in several ways. “I can not play because I have things to do” or “Help me make the bed and then we can play”, are two example sentences. As you can see, the message in the latter is much more positive than in the former. The child is included instead of being locked out.

Keep in mind that parents constantly say no to children. If all they hear is “no, no, no”, we can give them a negative message. It should be pointed out here that the subconscious does not register negations. If you tell a child not to do something, the child’s brain actually registers the opposite. Instead of saying no, you can use the words “stop” or “stop”.

So use a varied and balanced language. Tell them what is possible to do now and what is possible to do later.

To say no without being negative

Surprisingly, you can tell your child that something cannot be done without saying “no”. As we have already mentioned, this is actually good for the baby.

If we reformulate our answer, we can help the children understand why something is not allowed, or possible.

This way,  they will learn to understand the dynamics behind your rules, making them much easier to follow.

All of this will eventually  lead to more responsible behavior. Your children will be able to understand the consequences of their actions.

As a result, they may begin to make their own independent decisions and their self-esteem will grow.

Saying “no” all the time, on the other hand, can cause your children to stop paying attention to you. Leave this word until it is absolutely necessary.

Use it in situations when children may be about to be exposed to danger. It could be when they are crossing the road without holding your hand. Or when they lean out a window on the second floor.

Using positive language with children

When you change your language usage, it does not mean that you suddenly let your children do exactly what they want.

In fact, it has the opposite effect. Your answer is the same, but it is accompanied by an explanation that they can understand.

This does not mean that you should never tell your children. It just means  that you make sure that your words do not lose their meaning. 

It is important for parents to apply discipline, demand that children follow rules and build their character. Saying no and setting boundaries is a very important part of this.

You just do not have to fix all this in a single word. Here’s how you can handle it instead:

Four tips to help you along the way

• Suggest other things the child can do. For example, if you can not go to the park right now, maybe you can cook instead, or paint or watch TV. Make your child happy about something that can be done right now. Even if it’s something he or she did not ask for.

• Another method is to postpone the desired activity until all the chores are done. If your child wants to do something that is not possible at once, tell them when they can do it. It is extremely important for your credibility that you keep your promises.

• If your children are about to do something they should not, you should reason with them. For example, if they want to beat their brother or sister, explain what the result will be. Let the children understand that their actions have consequences.
• Discuss the rules with your children. It is important that they know the rules so that they know why when you have to say no. Talk to them about the rules you have at home. They will begin to assume your reaction. They will also know what can be negotiated – and what cannot. In this way, your children will learn important social skills. They will benefit from this for the rest of their lives.

Remember, speaking out to children in a positive way will not only make daily life easier. It will also help them understand why you do what you do. They will also understand the importance of listening.