My Arms Are Your Refuge: You Never Get Too Big

It does not matter if you are 3 months, 3 years or 30 years old. My arms are your refuge – that home where you can grow up and feel loved, appreciated and protected.

This corner of my body will be there every time you need a pillow to put your head on to forget your problems.

Every time you need that love and care that we all need, even when we are adults, I can say that my arms are your refuge.

During your daily life as a mother or father, someone has probably said to you: “you should not get your child used to holding it, because the child will then be spoiled”.

When you hear it, you can ask yourself if it is really better to leave the child in the cot on his back where he can stare up at the ceiling.

Boundaries and balance

Of course, everything must have its limits and be kept in balance. Babies should actually spend the first part of their lives close to the mother. Nothing is more beneficial or stimulating for the child.

The parents’ bosom and arms are the place where the child will feel safe. This is exactly what a developing brain needs.

We also want to give you another thing to reflect on. There are studies that show that the psycho-affective development of children who have grown up in orphanages is often so weak that it is traumatic.

Most of them have difficulty connecting with others. In fact, babies at one of the worst orphanages have even stopped crying.

These children have reached a point where they learn that it does not help them to cry at all. This has nothing to do with whether they get proper food or not. What they really want is to be held and emotionally comforted.

When they do not get this, they will develop shortcomings.

The consequence of this deficiency will lead to a number of consequences: low self-esteem, difficulties with attention and a slower cognitive development…

My arms are your refuge for you to grow strong

When it comes to such dramatic situations as the children who are in orphanages in Asia or Africa, one understands the importance of establishing strong, healthy and secure bonds with our babies.

These bands are important and something we should help them with, especially during the first three years of their lives. This time period is important for their psychomotor, affective and psychosocial development, as well as for brain development.

It is therefore always a good idea to follow the principle of raising our children in our arms. The benefits and the holistic impact that this approach has on our children are absolutely amazing.

Growing up in the arms of mother and father improves the development of the baby

A child’s natural position is, as we all know, the fetal position. This is how the baby lay in the womb and this is the position they think feels most comfortable during the first months of life.

• Regardless of whether you have the child in a pram or in your arms, you should remember that the child’s knees must always be in the “frog position”.
• The interaction that occurs when you hold your baby in your arms promotes the baby’s social, affective development, as well as the baby’s communication skills: your baby will respond to smiles, words and caresses.
• The fact that you carry the baby in your arms will reduce colic, including the classic reflux that is so common during the first three months of life.

• Keep in mind that children who lie down all the time can suffer from a condition where the head becomes flat.

My arms are your refuge, no matter how old you are

As we all know, children grow up so fast. Yesterday they took a nap on one’s chest and we walked around with them in the park. Now all of a sudden they go to school, go in the front seat and are ready to go on holiday with their friends.

All that is good and positive, and that is what all mothers and fathers hope for: that their children will be free, strong, mature and able to be happy and also make others happy.

Remember this: No one is so old that this person does not need a hug.

A mother’s and father’s hugs do not have an expiration date. They should be available for all the times when children need them.

They are a way to return home, a great way to remind our children how much we love them, how important they are to us and how proud we are of them: Our perfect and valuable children that life has given us.

So do not listen to the people who say you should not hold your child. If you do not give your child this emotional nourishment, you will envy him something he really needs.

Raising a child is not just about taking care of the child’s physical well-being. It is also about helping them emotionally.