To Be A Mother Is To Choose To Be One: The Mother Instinct Is A Myth

A mother naturally knows how to take care of and protect her children; these are words that sum up the concept known as the mother instinct. But every day we see hundreds of actions that make us see it as a myth. It makes us think instead “to be a mother is to choose it.”

Women are culturally brought up to find a partner, get married and multiply. But recently, some women have begun to take fate into their own hands. For various reasons, they do not have the motivation or time to fulfill this important “love role”.

To be a mother, it is good if you have a certain emotional maturity to be able to take on the demanding task of taking care of and loving a newborn child.

Experiences, emotions, education and social environment are also things that can influence a woman’s decision on whether she wants to become a mother or not.

The decision to have children is one that the woman must make herself. In order to make the choice, it is important to be aware of what motherhood means.

It is very important to have a clear plan for what you want out of life to be able to meet your own expectations, both as a woman and a mother.

Some women prefer to build a career first in order to have a stable financial base before motherhood. With their financial security, they can then find someone to help them with the important task of taking care of the child while they can continue with their career.

For other women, being a mother is a top priority. They assume the task of taking care of and protecting their child from the moment the newborn enters their life.

Support from the partner and other family members is incredibly important for her to get the emotional tools and financial support needed to be able to give the new child a good start in life.

Things to think about before making the decision to become a mother

Being a mother is a unique and amazing experience, and there is no “perfect” opportunity in life to become a mother. It all depends on each one. But it is still good to think through a few things first to be able to make a responsible decision:

• Think about your partner’s opinion. Make sure it is a good point in the relationship. Does your partner also want to bring a child into the world?

• Although the recommended age to give birth is said to be between 18 and 22 , every woman who chooses to have children can have the ability and resources needed to take care of the child.
• It is an important step to consult a health specialist before becoming a mother.
• Before considering having a child, it is important to avoid bad habits that can harm the child’s health, such as smoking, alcohol, a high-fat and sugary diet, etc.

Some advice before you make the decision to become a mother

• Think about how many children you want and for what period of time.
• Consult your partner to see what he or she thinks. Find out if your partner is ready to have children and if he is in a situation where he can take care of a child, etc.

• If you are single and decide to have children, try to have enough savings first. It will help if something unexpected happens.
  
• If you think you do not have the skills to be a good mother, but still want a baby, consult a specialist who can help you deal with your fears and doubts.

The most important thing is to be aware that it is a very important life decision. You must also have a willing heart and an open mind to be able to raise your children with love and devotion.