You Will Always Be My Weakness, Even If You Give Me Strength

We have said it many times before: the arrival of a child changes lives. It makes us stronger and transforms our weakness and insecurity into hope and courage.

But there is something we must acknowledge – the new life we ​​hold in our arms will always be our greatest weakness.

Gabriel Garcia Marquez once said in one of his books that “when a newborn grabs his father’s finger with his little hand for the first time, he has caught him forever.”

This feeling is experienced by everyone who enters the role of mother or father, regardless of whether it is natural or through adoption.

The emotional imprint that begins at first glance leaves deep traces in the heart.

As we have often said here at Being a Mother, the brain is a fascinating organ. And the change that occurs when we raise children is incredible.

The brain becomes more alert and secretes higher levels of oxytocin, the hormone that regulates the need to pay attention. It also reinforces the feeling of love.

However, there is something deeper and more sensitive that changes when we become parents, something that immediately confuses us and affects us even more when our child becomes stronger, gets older and grows up.

No matter what a child does, it does not matter where it is tomorrow, what it does or the distance that separates you: the child will always be your weakness.

You will always be a part of me, half my heart

Even if you carried your baby within you for 9 months, he or she will continue to grow in your heart, day after day. The baby will leave a mark on you that will last forever, a kind of emotional DNA that will always be with you.

No one but you knows how many nights you were awake when you took care of your child. Only you know what you have sacrificed and the effort you have invested in them. You love them even more than you love yourself.

Every day as a parent is a gift and a triumph. Even if each child has their own rhythm, you will always be happy about their progress.

Their first words, first steps, first competitions, first day of school and the first story they read aloud… Everything is part of life’s history.

It is a legacy that will shape your personality. It will shape your heart like a chisel, moment by moment, until you realize that your children are always the true love of your life.

You will always be my weakness, no matter the time or distance

It is often said that mothers forgive everything.

While children sometimes make the wrong choice, parents always have a basic need to help them, to be the helping hand, the warm, comforting embrace that welcomes them home.

A mother knows that her children will always be her weakness, because she manages to get into their shoes. She can feel how her children feel and suffer more than anyone else when her children suffer.

A mother’s greatest wish is that her child, whether the child is 7, 27 or 37 years old, is happy.

This “invisible umbilical cord” has nothing to do with wanting to control the baby or catch them in a kind of toxic relationship.

A wise, intelligent and respectful mother does everything to make her children feel free, mature, strong and able to choose their own paths and build a path to their own happiness. We have the strength to raise strong children, but our real strength is our sensitivity.

We have the strength to raise strong children, but our real strength is sensitivity

This is definitely a strange but wonderful contrast: having children forces us to put aside our own insecurities to take care of our heir and be a good example of temperament, courage and strength that will inspire them every day.

Yet it is precisely our ability to be sensitive that allows us to get closer to them. That is what allows us to give them a better upbringing.

• Being sensitive means that we can understand our children’s feelings and understand their reality.
• Our ability to be sensitive means that we use our love, respect and our care as our best upbringing tool.
• Being sensitive means that our children can see us as a mirror, where they see us as people who understand them, guide them, listen to them without judging and guide them without forcing them. We must bring them up in a fair way without suffocating them.

The conclusion is that strength is important when raising and educating children. It makes us feel better.

Yet we must never forget that what children need most when they grow up is their parents’ sensitivity.